You may have listened to Adele’s Someone Like You whilst trying to forget and move on from a year long relationship. Or maybe, read a lot of articles about moving on, why your relationship have failed and what have you done wrong.
Moving on takes a lot of courage and strength. I know it does, cause I asked from above to give me tons of it.
Being in a relationship is one thing about adulthood; having someone to love, care, share secrets with and laugh with. But not all times you’d be giddy and in love – sometimes it doesn’t end up the way we wanted it. And both ends have to move on.
It is hard to forget someone who has been a routine; who has been there for your ups and downs. It is hard, but I know you’ll be able to wake up one day feeling strong.
Moving on isn’t as simple as 1-2-3; sometimes it takes a year or two for someone to forget the person they have loved – whether it is a romantic love or love for someone related.
It took me a long time to forget my first love, couple years I must say. I honestly kept myself busy, did a lot of new things and focused on those things rather than thinking of the love we have shared over and over again. I know it is stupid to just not think about that, what about the good memories you two have shared, right? But when things aren’t working out, it is much better to move on.
There is no easy way in moving on, thus- there are some things that we need to remember to keep on going: Acceptance, Forgiveness, Forget. It’ll never be easy as A-B-C’s nor 1-2-3, it’ll be a slow progress and at the end of the day you’ll be able to smile fully while carrying a happy heart.
Acceptance, is always the first key. One must accept the fact that the relationship is over, the relationship has reached it’s end. It’ll be a slow progress but everything happens for a good reason.
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you” – Colossians 3:13
Instead of crying – we can help ourselves to stand up every single day, to wake up each morning with a positive mind and a smile on our face. Focus on the things we love to do and discovering new hobbies is definitely a big help!
Forget all the sad songs that make you remember the time you two had together! Instead, listen to positive, chill songs that’ll brighten the mood. One song that honestly helped me was Leona Lewis’ song: Better in Time.
Better in Time by Leona Lewis
“Thought I couldn’t live without you
It’s gonna hurt when it heals too
It’ll all get better in time
And even though I really love you
I’m gonna smile ’cause I deserve to
It’ll all get better in time.”
Once you have accepted the fact that the relationship isn’t goong anywhere, forgiveness will take place. It doesn’t matter if they asked for forgiveness, cause sometimes having to forgive someone will take some of the torns that was in your heart. Trust me, it’ll make you feel lighter. Then there goes that we should forget them. It’ll be hard but it’s the best thing to do when moving on. Forget the person, the pain and try to look out for the rainbow after all the thunderstorm.
Cause sometimes God gives us this person in our life to be a lesson, every heartbreak and failed relationship is a lesson for us to reflect. Falling in love is an amazing feeling, overcoming heartbreak makes one person a strong person. Like people would always say, everything happens for a reason. The breakup is a sign that there is someone else for us who deserves our heart and love.
What advice you would give to someone who wants to move on?
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